There is an unseen life that dreams us;
it knows our true direction and destiny.
We can trust ourselves more than we realize,
and we need have no fear of change.
-John O' Donohue
Does Life Dream Us?
At one point in my life I was really attracted to pursuing a philosophy degree. I would just light up whenever I was in a conversation about the intangible questions of life. When I was in touch with this part of myself I felt my passion and it's warmth. I remember that my enthusiasm and energy was infectious and friends would tell me that talking to me inspired them to think differently. I guess you could say, I had tapped in to one of my gifts.
When It came time to choose a major in College however, The skillful and practical cynic in me extinguished the embers of my passion like a firehose on a backyard bonfire.
Later in life, after my college degree, I got a practical job and exchanged my soul for a paycheck.
After fooling myself for a while, I realized I was trapped in the rat race.
I'd spend lots of time thinking of things I'd rather be doing, but my fear of change and my lack of faith in myself would always keep me pinned. I found myself side-hustling projects that could keep me connected to the inner philosopher but each time I'd start those embers burning, the cynic would arrive with firehose. "Fire Fire Fire!" she'd scream.
My cynic saboteur was more concerned with my ability to support myself and as my Father used to say:
"How many wealthy philosophers do you know?" (and you can interchange philosopher with artist, or writer, or lap-dancer (ok, that last one was just a funny).
Come to think of it though, I'm also remembering another line my father always used to say:
The Cynic Knows the Price of Everything
and the Value of Nothing.
If you think about that statement for a while, it really sticks.
I've come to learn that Philosophy literally means "love of widsom".
Philosophy (from Greek φιλοσοφία, philosophia, literally "love of wisdom") is the study of general and fundamental problems concerning matters such as existence, knowledge, values, reason, mind, and language.
Here I am at the age of almost 47, and my love has never waned. What made me trade that natural tendency in for a chance at practicality? Which, the last time I checked has never once ignited passion in me. I realize that we are not trained to follow natural skills and talents that fall outside the traditional career path.
Philosophy is an activity people undertake when they seek to understand themselves, the world they live in, and the relations to the world and each other. Those who study philosophy are engaged in asking, answering, evaluating, and reasoning about some of life’s most basic, meaningful, and difficult questions, such as:
"What is it to be a human?"
"Is there a God?"
"What is the best sort of life to live?"
"What do you think the Life Journey is really about?"
Some of the most interesting people I know tend to ask these questions. People who dare to ask these questions are my people. They are my tribe.
Which leads me to my love of Co-Active Life Coaching, Coaching connects me to this inner philosopher and seeker who asks questions and dares to look for answers in hidden places, below the surface. Coaching is also deeply connected to this unseen life that dreamed me.. I can feel it, I'm on my purpose when I'm coaching. Coaching places value on my talent to ask people powerful questions that allow them to explore a fertile place inside them, waiting to be born and guided through the birth canal.
This new career started it's call to me last December, when I made the choice to stop smothering the fire inside me. I took one tiny step toward this unseen life simply by enrolling myself in the very first class that would ultimately be the first of many. Step by step, piece by piece, kindling that fire, and fanning it back to life. Each time the gal with the firehose showed up I sent her back to the truck, and every time I sent her back, the fire burned brighter and my formerly unseen life began to take shape and I began to trust in the direction life was leading me.
Does life lead us?
I do believe that if we allow it to, life leads us toward our destiny. I believe the Universe is always conspiring to bring us toward our truth, waiting for us to align with our purpose, but we have to be willing to feel where the fire in us dwells.
Have you found your inner fire?
So back to this quote I love and that set me to thinking today;
The only part of the quote that wasn't resonating was the part about fear:
"And we need have no fear of change."
Sorry, but that's just a package deal.
Change is risky, and fear is always a familiar companion. The closer we get to the edge of our comfort zone the louder the gal with the firehose gets.
"That fire is too hot!"
"That fire is too big!"
"You'll get burned!"
What I've discovered is that those warnings are there to keep us alert as a natural part of walking toward the unknown. Yes- that fire in us is hot and big and strong and it's bright and warm and beautiful. Go there!
Risking the life we have for the one that dreams us is no match for a fire-starter; so feel the fear and know that along with it comes the energy that fan the embers of your unseen life into the glorious shape of your future.
Tip: Follow the heat.
If you'd like to get your embers glowing and explore the wild world of possibilities with a Life Coach that's committed to revealing your inner fire. Please sign up for a free consultation and sample session here.
This blog post is dedicated to my own Life Coach who's been stretching me to "risk" and write this week. It's been many months since I've allowed the writing fire to burn. Thank You Jessica.
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