By the time most girls have reached adolescence, they have disassociated from the pain of hundreds and thousands of microaggressions. In essence, we vacate the place which causes us the most pain by refusing to inhabit what is an emotionally uninhabitable place- our bodies.

We no longer respond to "external stimuli" because we have learned that to go numb, is to survive. To escape from our bodies, we "go across" - up into our heads, and instead of living from the body’s wisdom, the place that contains our access to our feminine power through intuition, instinct, emotion, and inner knowing, we instead masculinize ourselves in a world of doing, logic, and pragmatism while leaving us in a trance of unworthiness- compliant and compromised.